It happens to all of us, life gets on top of us and we don’t exercise for a week, then a month, then many months. I had a period recently where I didn’t really do much at all for a few weeks, due to the dreaded first trimester fatigue and morning sickness.
I had become so worked up about it that I didn’t know how to start again. Each night when I went to bed, I had the best intentions of getting up the next morning but the day would come and go and I wouldn’t have exercised. I would feel so TERRIBLE about this because that feeling of guilt just got worse and worse.
If you are in a stage like this, I want you to remember that you are not a terrible person. You are still keeping a little human (or humans) alive and that is a very important job. It can become an extremely overwhelming job because it takes over your whole life. I remember some days especially when Oscar was just a baby that I just didn’t feel like a person, I just felt like all my energy and thoughts had been used up on this tiny human that I even forgot to make dinner.
We are all human and no one is perfect. There are going to be times in your life where you don’t have it all together and when you have children, it happens way more often than not. I don’t claim to be perfect and I try to be as transparent as possible.
So I decided to make it a non-negotiable. I decided that I was going to make it a non-negotiable and I was going to do it in the morning because I find this works best for me because at night after I have put Oscar to bed and made dinner and done all the other chores, I just want to SIT DOWN! Anyone else with me on this one??
Here’s what happened:
I had more energy
The first day or so I was DRAGGING myself through my workout. But on day 3 I actually woke up with a spring in my step and couldn’t wait to get into my workout.
I also found that I had a lot more energy in the afternoons than I had previously had.
My mood improved
I found as the month went on, I had more patience with Oscar and other areas of my life. I found I wasn’t such a grumpy mess by the time my husband got home and I was feeling good about myself!
I was more efficient in everything else I had to do
In the previous month, I was beginning to feel like everything was piling on top of me.
I couldn’t keep up with emails, appointments, dinner, washing….. and more.
It was all piling up on top of me.
But during this month I found I was much more efficient in all areas of my life.
I felt more confident
I always say that exercise is just as good for you physically as it is mentally. This month, the simple act of exercising everyday made my confidence sky rocket.
I didn’t worry about the little things. I felt less worried about what others were thinking of me. It was amazing!
I felt more in control of the day (instead of letting it control me)
This is a big one for me. I was really feeling like I was spiralling out of control. I was in reactive mode instead of proactive mode which always makes me very stressed.
About a week into this challenge I set myself, I was in control of my days again.
I felt better about myself
Your body can be a touchy subject for a new mum or mum to be. It goes through many changes and it can be hard to come to terms with.
I think, subconsciously, I was worried about my body going through these changes again and by taking back control and adding in a healthy habit of exercising it made me feel much better about myself.
At the end of the day, we are always going to have times where we are a bit off and don’t do any exercise. Please understand that this is normal and not a reason to beat yourself up.
The best part of a person’s character is their ability to get back up, no matter how many times you get knocked down.
This is especially true for a mother, there are so many factors that are outside our control.
It can feel like the end of the world if we don’t stick to schedule or something doesn’t get done.
Having something in your life that is for you – that makes you look and feel great is absolutely priceless.
At the end of the day, if you reverse your priorities and do something for you and make that a priority – you will be much better in other aspects of your life!